Porn cravings are where most men get derailed.

They can have a solid plan, strong motivation, and real commitment — and still find themselves acting on autopilot when an urge hits.

This lesson shows you how to interrupt that autopilot in real time using the 3 Frontline Questions:

• What do I want?
• How can I win?
• Who will I be?

The goal isn’t suppression or white-knuckling.
The goal is to decode cravings, redirect your energy, and choose a better path forward.

The Key Insight: Cravings Are Not True Desires

One distinction matters more than anything else in quitting porn:

Cravings are not true desires.
They are attempts to run away from true desires.

If you treat cravings as authentic desires, you end up stuck in one of two traps:

• constant denial and resentment, or
• acting on impulses that don’t actually serve you

Instead, cravings need to be decoded, not suppressed.

That’s exactly what the 3 Frontline Questions allow you to do.

A Quick Pro Tip Before You Start

When a strong craving hits, create space first.

Step away from your devices.
Change rooms.
Go outside.
Take a walk.

This space makes it far easier to work through the questions clearly — especially while you’re still installing the Frontline Framework or when the urge is intense.

Step One: “What Do I Want?” – Decode the Craving

When a craving hits, start with the heart shift and ask what you actually want.

Most porn cravings fall into one of three categories:

• Emotional cravings
• Chemical cravings
• True sexual cravings

Identifying which one you’re dealing with gives you enormous leverage.

Emotional Cravings

Emotional cravings come from unresolved pressure:

• stress
• loneliness
• overwhelm
• avoidance
• unhandled problems

Porn isn’t the desire here — it’s the escape.

What do I want?
Relief, clarity, connection, progress, or resolution.

How Can I Win?

You don’t need to fully solve the problem.
You just need to acknowledge it and orient toward it.

That might mean:

• working on it briefly
• outlining next steps
• scheduling time to address it
• consciously deferring it with intention

Once the desire feels heard and addressed, the urge to escape weakens.

Who Will I Be?

Use a hat shift to lock it in:

“I’m the kind of guy who rejects avoidance and embraces decisive action.”

Then act.

Chemical Cravings

Chemical cravings are simple:
nothing is “wrong” — your brain just wants pleasure or relief.

What do I want?
Pleasure. Relief. A hit of feeling good.

Don’t fight this. Work with it.

How Can I Win?

Shift into a low-friction, flow-friendly activity and let the craving pass:

• a walk
• light movement
• reading
• sleep
• a snack
• a short break

Chemical cravings pass relatively quickly once your energy is redirected.

If you can’t take a break immediately, decide when you’ll get relief. Knowing it’s coming is often enough.

Who Will I Be?

This is about learning pleasure on purpose, not punishment:

“I’m the kind of guy who rejects slave-driver discipline and embraces reasonable, porn-free pleasure.”

True Sexual Cravings

True sexual cravings feel different.

You don’t want escape.
You don’t want relief.
You want sex — you feel it in your body.

This is sexual energy, and the solution isn’t suppression.

It’s transmutation.

What do I want?
To passionately engage life with force, creativity, and intensity.

How Can I Win?

Redirect that energy into virile, effortful action:

• a hard workout
• creative work
• decisive action you’ve been avoiding
• crushing tasks or chores
• social boldness
• doing something that builds real status in your life

You’re not calming the energy — you’re aiming it.

Who Will I Be?

Bring heat to the hat shift:

“I’m the kind of guy who rejects virtual release and embraces real action.”

Then move immediately.

Final Perspective

To recap:

• When triggered, run the 3 Frontline Questions
• Emotional craving → address the emotional pressure
• Chemical craving → allow aligned pleasure or rest
• Sexual craving → transmute the energy into action

You do not need to fix your entire life to overcome a craving.

You only need to honor the real desire underneath it.

The rest of the Frontline Framework ensures those small, aligned decisions compound into lasting freedom.

Don’t aim for perfection.
Aim to interrupt the old pattern and choose a new one.

In the next lesson, you’ll learn how to condition these responses so they become automatic over time.

Exercise for this Lesson

Complete the following exercises to begin fleshing installing the 3 FLQ's as your first line of defense against porn cravings: