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[CL#4]: The Most Healing Question for a Man

— Mark Queppet

It struck me this week that one of the most healing questions a man can receive is when a friend sincerely hits him with: 

"So what's been going on with you man?"

Not just as a throwaway greeting, but with a genuine interest to hear what’s happening. 

So many men today are just stuck isolated in their own experiences. Having someone actually give a crap about what you’re struggling with, interested in, and aiming for is not only incredibly affirming… but it also lets you dial in your perspective, celebrate progress, and solidify your intentions. 

The problem is that most guys don’t have someone to ask them that question regularly...

So ask it YOURSELF. 

Believe it or not, I’ve had a number of clients generate incredible progress by simply having a little “genuine check-in” with themselves each day. Could be a voice note, journal entry, or even an out-loud chat with themselves on their commute home. 

Basically, that’s what these log posts are. Me just asking myself “What’s going on man?” regarding anything that might be relevant to you guys. 

In other words, these posts are as much for me as they are for you 😁

So on that note:

Codex Updates

I've been working on putting out my most definitive content on the inner key of dignity. So far we’ve got these two lessons out on the topic:

And I've got three more planned, where we'll be laying out even more practical tools for connecting with and honoring your dignity. For most guys this stuff will unlock a totally new engine of motivation inside of them, and I'm excited to share it all with you.

Dead Bedroom Types

I put out a thread on X about the 5 types of dead bedrooms 👇

If you're struggling in this department you might find this one useful. 

It currently has more bookmarks (meaning people save it) than likes, and I'm not I'm not sure what that means but I find it interesting...

Command Center Update

Guys are continuing to reach new streak highs, with one member hitting 50, and another hitting 60 days clean from porn.

I've been loving the office hours calls. Been really great getting to just connect with guys on what they are dealing with, covering everything from navigating divorce to plotting out career paths.

Also dropped some exclusive "field notes" on 

  • Rooting out undignified thought patterns
  • Ownership and "Productive Venting"
  • The "Nuclear Option" for handling porn cravings

👉If you'd like to join in, click here to check it out.

Till next time...

UYAP,
Mark Queppet